The holiday season usually means that there’s a good chance you’ll start meeting your significant other’s family if you haven’t already taken that step. And it can be a really nerve-wracking step to take! There’s so much anxiety over how to act, will they like you, what to bring, what to talk about, and the list goes on and on. So let’s start with this: take a deep breath! Know that your significant other loves you and that their family knows that, too. Obviously they have a good reason to love you right there! But to help calm your nerves, we asked some ladies for their best tips going into the big meetup.
There are some great things you can do to help prep yourself for meeting the family. We love the suggestion to have your SO draw up a family tree to review. Families can be complicated, so it’s great to have an outline of who is who before you meet them all. Another good move is to clean up your social media. There’s a good chance they’ve already creeped on you, but if you have anything you wouldn’t want them to see, it may be a good time to clean things up. If they haven’t looked you up yet, they probably will be soon! Also, really put some thought into things like how to answer questions about yourself and your plans for the future. If your relationship is serious, this question is fair game, so don’t get caught off-guard! Along the same lines, come up with questions that you can ask them!
The Day Of:
Today’s the day! First up, let’s get dressed. This is a great example of “dress for the job you want.” Make sure you have yourself put together nicely. Keep it modest, nothing low cut or too short. Makeup goes with that too -- try keeping your look natural and not over the top. Ask your SO for ideas of a nice little host gift you can bring, too! It’s a great way to make a good first impression and start a natural conversation right off the bat. While you’re there, just try your best to be genuine! Ask questions, engage in conversation, and stay off your phone! Sitting there texting or scrolling through Instagram instead of interacting will be a huge turn-off, for the family and your SO. Minimize your PDA time, too. No one likes watching their child and SO get handsy at the Thanksgiving table.
It’s easy to want to lower your anxiety and soothe your nerves with a drink. While slow, controlled drinking may help you feel like you’re fitting into the social scene, really nurse that baby and do not overdrink! One of the fastest ways to ruin a good first impression is to be the sloppy, drunk girlfriend. Don’t be that girl! Keep the alcohol to the minimum and instead offer up your services to help in the kitchen. Whether it’s bringing a dish, helping cook ahead of time, or cleaning up after the meal is done, everyone is always a fan of the person who offers up assistance instead of taking a load off on the couch.
At the end of the day, just remember to always be yourself! Like we said, your SO loves you for a reason, so they’re probably already talked you up to their family. Don’t assume that they dislike you without even meeting you. Chances are, you’re going to get along great! And if not, that’s okay too. It’s not just a one-sided relationship, so you’re allowed to have an opinion on them as well. Do your best to be friendly and polite, it’s only one day, who knows what the future holds!