What's Your Love Language and Why Does it Matter?

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We’re constantly hearing people talk about these “love languages,” but do you really know what it’s all about? What’s so special or important about your love language? Well, today we’re going to break it all down for you. Let’s start with the basics. There are 5 main love languages: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Knowing what your and your partner’s love languages are will help grow and improve your relationship. How? Knowing their love language will help you learn how they best feel and embrace your love! Maybe their love language is words of affirmation and yours is physical touch. You may be demonstrating behaviors that make you feel loved, but not what make them feel loved! While it’s important to practice all love languages, you’ll each have one or two that are most important to you. Let’s dig deeper into what each language means.

Words of Affirmation

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This is exactly what it sounds like it is! Make sure your partner feels appreciated by verbalizing your love for them. Whether it’s always remembering to tell them “I love you,” or simple compliments, the verbal reinforcement is key. It’s important to use different reasons and phrases as well. Instead of always saying “I love you” say “I love you because…” or note things about their personality that make you love them (“I love how you always cheer me up when I’m in a bad mood”). On the opposite end of the spectrum, it’s important to watch what negative words you use. They’ll hold a lot of value and power and will not be easily forgotten.

Acts of Service

Have you ever heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words?” This couldn’t be more true for someone whose love language is acts of service. Everyone loves being told that they’re loved, but for these individuals, you need to show them how much you love them. Whether it’s helping out around the house doing laundry or yard work or cooking dinner. Recognize that life is hard and do your part to really make an effort to help out. For someone with acts of service as a love language, laziness and broken promises are major turn-offs, so really put forth your best effort to do little things for your SO.

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Receiving Gifts

Now we know how this one looks… but just because someone’s love language is receiving gifts doesn’t mean that they’re materialistic. Really, the gift doesn’t need to be expensive to count. It’s more about the thought behind the gift! In order to give someone a gift, you have to be thinking about that person. It shows that you care and are thinking about them even when they’re not around.

Quality Time

Quality time is just that… quality! This doesn’t mean watching TV or a movie together. This means real, true, uninterrupted and distraction-free time together. Sitting on the couch having a heartfelt conversation and looking at one another, or going for a walk around the neighborhood -- even a date night out can work for this situation. The main focus is on your partner. No phones, just undivided attention on one another. On the other side of the coin, people with this love language are easily hurt by distractions being present, dates being postponed, or you not paying attention/remembering general conversations shared. Really focus on giving them your full attention and showing that you care.

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Physical Touch

For many people, having that physical connection is vital to a strong and healthy relationship. This isn’t just limited to the bedroom, either. Hand holding, sweet kisses, loving caresses, and the like are also important. This doesn’t necessarily require an over-the-top level of PDA, but make sure you’re demonstrating enough physical connection to make your partner happy. This will translate to them feeling safe and secure in your relationship. Lack of physical touch can really affect the self-esteem of your partner if this is their primary love language.

How to Keep Your Relationship Strong Through The Wedding Planning Stress

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Let’s be real, planning a wedding can be extremely stressful and take a toll on your relationship. Who’s making the guest list, who’s not, where are people sitting, what flowers are we picking… the list goes on and on. That’s why it’s extra important to make sure you’re taking the necessary time to keep your relationship strong and healthy amid all the stress and tension. After all, if the stress gets to you, then you may end up not walking down the aisle at all! So today, we’re sharing our top tips to keep your relationship healthy throughout your planning process and beyond.

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Communication

It may sound cliche, but communication really is key! Always be sure that you can be open and honest with your partner. It’s important that you’re able to share your feelings with one another. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, tell them! If you’re feeling hurt, tell them. It doesn’t have to be negative either, make sure you’re giving them reminders of how happy you are to be with them and excited to walk down the aisle for your “I do’s.”

Date Nights

Commit to a weekly date night. Sure, this can be difficult with your busy schedules, but it’s really important to make time for yourselves. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but make sure you’re getting out of the house to do something special together. No talk of planning, just be focused on enjoying each other’s presence.

Quality Time

Aside from your date nights, make sure the time you are spending together is quality time. It’s fine to snuggle up on the couch and watch some Netflix, but make sure you’re also taking the time to connect and talk about your days, too. Don’t have your phones out and simply coexist. Really make the time meaningful together. Maybe you want to go for a walk around the neighborhood or even just play a game at home. This can be a breath of fresh air in the middle of your planning craziness!

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Image Source: Junebug Weddings

Love Languages

Learn your love languages! Have you ever heard of these? There are 5 of them: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Figure out what your partner’s love language is and adjust accordingly.

Find the Humor

At the end of the day, you have to find ways to make the best of the craziness and the situation. Focus on the positives and do what you can to find the humor in the day. Keeping things light can be helpful!