Keep The Festivities Rolling with a Post-Wedding Brunch!

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Image Source: The Knot

The best way to prevent those post-wedding blues? Host a post-wedding brunch the morning after your big day! We love setting aside some time for you to continue the celebrations with your loved ones and hear their favorite parts about the previous day. This is a great way to thank your guests once again for making the haul to your event and an awesome send off for the happy couple as well. But how do you go about hosting the brunch? We’re breaking it down for you today.

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Image Source: @brayanmess

Where do we host?

The most convenient option is to just host the event at your hotel, assuming that you reserved a hotel block and most people will be in the same location, or at least nearby! The bottom line is to keep it convenient for your guests to get to, especially if they traveled out of town for the event. If you’re having your reception at the same location, you may be able to work out some sort of package deal/discounted pricing. Keep this a nice casual event -- no need for seating charts or a theme here -- to recount the festivities together.

What do we serve?

The caterer or hotel staff will be able to walk you through your options here. Most likely, you’ll be able to select options for a buffet, or if it’s a smaller group, guests can pick right from the menu. This will vary depending on your venue, but everyone loves a good brunch, so don’t stress too much over the menu! Keep it simple with the traditional waffles, eggs, fruit, yogurt, etc. Bloody Mary’s and mimosas are always nice, but make sure you don’t forget the coffee, too!

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Image Source: @sanacateringmarbella

How do we know who’s coming?

This is a great thing to put in your invitations! Include all the details on location and timing for the brunch on a separate note in your invitations so that guests are aware it is happening. On your RSVP cards, include a box for them to check as to whether or not they plan to attend the brunch in addition to your ceremony or not. This will give you, and in turn your caterer/venue, the proper head count for that morning’s food. Make note: you do NOT need to invite everyone who was invited to the wedding! It’s perfectly acceptable to keep it small and just with your families and closest friends if that’s what you prefer.

What’s a good time to start?

You can set whatever window works for you (and your venue!). We typically think of brunch as something running from 10 am through 2 pm. If your reception and after party are running into the wee hours of the morning, you can always shift it back to an 11 am start time if you think that will be better suited for yourselves and your guests.

Start to Finish: The Process of Changing Your Name After the Big Day

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Image Source: The Knot/Lens Cap Productions

The big day is coming up fast and you’re putting together your last minute to-do lists. One of the top items? How do you change your last name after the wedding? Well, if you’re going the route of taking your groom’s last name, it can be a lengthy process. You may not realize just how many things have your name attached to them that will need to be updated! It’s like when you get sent a new credit card and all your auto-pay purchases get angry… but on steroids. But have no fear, we’re reviewing both the process you’ll go through and our list of things you may not think of to avoid missing anything. As an added bonus, we did our best to add up the general fees associated with each step, so you can factor that into your budget to avoid being caught off guard.

Make sure you check your state laws for any additional regulations, but most states are pretty uniform when a bride is taking her groom’s last name. Some states do have different processes if you are:

  1. A man taking his wife’s last name;
  2. A couple choosing a last name different from either partner’s; or
  3. A same sex marriage partner changing his or her last name.

Step 1: Obtain Your Marriage License

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Obviously you need this to officially be married, but it will also serve as your official document to get the name change process rolling. You’ll need to use the original or a certified copy as documentation for many of the changes below. The cost of your marriage license varies significantly based on location, anywhere from $10 to $115. Obviously, this is a necessary expense as you’re not legally married without it!

Step 2: Get a New Social Security Card

Don’t worry, your number will stay the same. You’ll need to fill out a form to change your name and provide your marriage license as proof. If you go directly through Social Security, this one is free!

Step 3: Get a New License at the DMV

The dreaded DMV… unfortunately you’ll have to do this one in person. Bring your marriage license, new social security card, and your old license. This is one where you should definitely check your specific state laws!

Step 4: Get an Updated Passport

If you have any plans to travel in the near future, get this done ASAP! It can take a few months to receive your new passport, it’s expensive enough as it is without having to pay rush fees. If you already have or have previously had a passport, this will run you $110. If this is your first passport, it will be $145. There is one thing to note here: if your passport was issued in the last 12 months, you can apply for your name change free of charge! Definitely a bonus there if you fall in that category. Getting your new Social Security Card/Driver’s License before your passport application will also make the process move quicker and more smoothly. If you’d rather wait out the time on your current passport until it expires to change your name, make sure you book any traveling with your maiden name.

Step 5: Bank Accounts

Whether you’re transitioning your accounts to joint accounts with your new spouse (if you don’t already have joint accounts) or are keeping your accounts separate, it’s important to change your name here as well. Changing the name on your account shouldn’t cost anything, but being issued a new debit card could potentially render a fee. The process should be fairly simple if you visit your local branch with your marriage license and new ID.

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Image Source: Bridal Guide/Visionyard Photography

Step 6: Notify Employers and Update Payroll

This is an important step! Especially as you’ve transitioned your bank accounts, make sure you notify your employer of your name change for payroll purposes. This includes your direct deposit as well as any retirement accounts and benefits provided through the company. If you’re changing your name professionally, your employer should be able to assist you in transitioning into a new email address (if applicable) with your new name. Don’t forget to update your email signature, too!

Step 7: The Rest of the Puzzle!

There are so many things associated with your name. Below is a list of the most common places you’ll also have your name listed. They shouldn’t cost anything additional to change your name (other than credit cards -- there may be a fee in requesting a new card). Chances are, you’ll get some pieces of mail over time where you realize you didn’t notify the company of your name change. No biggie, just let them know as it comes! If you’re looking to be proactive, make sure you check on the following:

  • Post office
  • Electric and other utility companies
  • Credit cards
  • Landlord or mortgage company
  • Insurance companies (auto, home, life)
  • Doctors' offices
  • Voter registration office
  • Investment account providers
  • Your attorney (to update legal documents, including your will)
  • Phone/cable bills
  • Student loans
  • Voter registration
  • State tax authority (IRS is notified automatically through the SSA)
  • Professional licensing boards/associations
  • Magazine subscriptions

There are sites like Hitch Switch that will help you with the majority of the process for an additional fee. This can be helpful if you’re overwhelmed, but keep in mind that they can’t cover everything you need to switch, just the basics, so be sure to double check all the additional places even if you opt for a service!