How to Put Your Best Foot Forward to "Meet the Parents!"

The holiday season usually means that there’s a good chance you’ll start meeting your significant other’s family if you haven’t already taken that step. And it can be a really nerve-wracking step to take! There’s so much anxiety over how to act, will they like you, what to bring, what to talk about, and the list goes on and on. So let’s start with this: take a deep breath! Know that your significant other loves you and that their family knows that, too. Obviously they have a good reason to love you right there! But to help calm your nerves, we asked some ladies for their best tips going into the big meetup.

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Pre-emptive Moves:

There are some great things you can do to help prep yourself for meeting the family. We love the suggestion to have your SO draw up a family tree to review. Families can be complicated, so it’s great to have an outline of who is who before you meet them all. Another good move is to clean up your social media. There’s a good chance they’ve already creeped on you, but if you have anything you wouldn’t want them to see, it may be a good time to clean things up. If they haven’t looked you up yet, they probably will be soon! Also, really put some thought into things like how to answer questions about yourself and your plans for the future. If your relationship is serious, this question is fair game, so don’t get caught off-guard! Along the same lines, come up with questions that you can ask them!

The Day Of:

Today’s the day! First up, let’s get dressed. This is a great example of “dress for the job you want.” Make sure you have yourself put together nicely. Keep it modest, nothing low cut or too short. Makeup goes with that too -- try keeping your look natural and not over the top. Ask your SO for ideas of a nice little host gift you can bring, too! It’s a great way to make a good first impression and start a natural conversation right off the bat. While you’re there, just try your best to be genuine! Ask questions, engage in conversation, and stay off your phone! Sitting there texting or scrolling through Instagram instead of interacting will be a huge turn-off, for the family and your SO. Minimize your PDA time, too. No one likes watching their child and SO get handsy at the Thanksgiving table.

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It’s easy to want to lower your anxiety and soothe your nerves with a drink. While slow, controlled drinking may help you feel like you’re fitting into the social scene, really nurse that baby and do not overdrink! One of the fastest ways to ruin a good first impression is to be the sloppy, drunk girlfriend. Don’t be that girl! Keep the alcohol to the minimum and instead offer up your services to help in the kitchen. Whether it’s bringing a dish, helping cook ahead of time, or cleaning up after the meal is done, everyone is always a fan of the person who offers up assistance instead of taking a load off on the couch.


At the end of the day, just remember to always be yourself! Like we said, your SO loves you for a reason, so they’re probably already talked you up to their family. Don’t assume that they dislike you without even meeting you. Chances are, you’re going to get along great! And if not, that’s okay too. It’s not just a one-sided relationship, so you’re allowed to have an opinion on them as well. Do your best to be friendly and polite, it’s only one day, who knows what the future holds!

How to Keep Your Relationship Strong Through The Wedding Planning Stress

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Let’s be real, planning a wedding can be extremely stressful and take a toll on your relationship. Who’s making the guest list, who’s not, where are people sitting, what flowers are we picking… the list goes on and on. That’s why it’s extra important to make sure you’re taking the necessary time to keep your relationship strong and healthy amid all the stress and tension. After all, if the stress gets to you, then you may end up not walking down the aisle at all! So today, we’re sharing our top tips to keep your relationship healthy throughout your planning process and beyond.

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Communication

It may sound cliche, but communication really is key! Always be sure that you can be open and honest with your partner. It’s important that you’re able to share your feelings with one another. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, tell them! If you’re feeling hurt, tell them. It doesn’t have to be negative either, make sure you’re giving them reminders of how happy you are to be with them and excited to walk down the aisle for your “I do’s.”

Date Nights

Commit to a weekly date night. Sure, this can be difficult with your busy schedules, but it’s really important to make time for yourselves. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but make sure you’re getting out of the house to do something special together. No talk of planning, just be focused on enjoying each other’s presence.

Quality Time

Aside from your date nights, make sure the time you are spending together is quality time. It’s fine to snuggle up on the couch and watch some Netflix, but make sure you’re also taking the time to connect and talk about your days, too. Don’t have your phones out and simply coexist. Really make the time meaningful together. Maybe you want to go for a walk around the neighborhood or even just play a game at home. This can be a breath of fresh air in the middle of your planning craziness!

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Love Languages

Learn your love languages! Have you ever heard of these? There are 5 of them: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Figure out what your partner’s love language is and adjust accordingly.

Find the Humor

At the end of the day, you have to find ways to make the best of the craziness and the situation. Focus on the positives and do what you can to find the humor in the day. Keeping things light can be helpful!

Prenup or Not? Things To Consider In Your Decision

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We know, we know, the idea of discussing how to handle the end of your marriage before it even begins isn’t appealing. But hear us out, there can be many pros to having this legally binding agreement in place, even though you hope to never need to use it. Prenuptials aren’t just for couples with a lot of money or income inequalities either, they can be a good idea for couples in any financial situation. This gives you the opportunity to lay all your financial cards on the table, make sure you and your partner are on the same page, and have a game plan moving forward.

Contrary to popular belief, even if you maintain separate “personal” bank accounts after your marriage, the law sees all assets as combined. So in the event of a separation, your spouse is entitled to half the amount in your personal account. A prenup gives you the opportunity to give stipulations to how you want to divide assets in the event of a divorce. If you’re getting married, we would hope that you’ve had open and honest financial discussions, but if you’ve failed to do so up until this point, planning out a prenup could be an eye-opening experience.

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There are some pros to having a prenup -- obviously, or else no one would get them! Some of the biggest ones that we like to highlight are that if you’re coming into the relationship with family inheritance, you can write that in to be preserved if things turn south. If you’re coming into the marriage with children from previous marriages, you can ensure that they’re taken care of and protected. It also prevents a nasty battle over assets because most things will already be laid out.

People have a lot of negative thoughts and feelings towards prenuptials. For example, many see it as planning the end of a relationship before it begins, or that there’s a lack of trust between the couple. While it’s certainly not romantic and can definitely cause a bit of tension, that doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s a lack of trust. If your partner wants a prenup, have an open discussion and understand that they want to make sure you are both covered if things go downhill.

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If you do opt for a prenuptial, keep a few things in mind throughout the process. First off, make sure you hire separate legal counsel to ensure both parties are fairly represented in the discussions. Be honest and open in your discussions. Make sure you’re fully disclosing all relevant information and assets, if you fail to disclose or are found to have hidden assets in the process, the prenuptial can be voided. Make sure you come to an end result that you are both happy with. Just because you plan on never having to use the document doesn’t mean you should settle with something that’s unfair or not to your liking!