Help! Do I Need A Day-Of Coordinator?

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Image Source: @aisleplanner

Wedding planning… it is not easy. If you’ve made it through the process solo, congrats, that’s a huge accomplishment! You clearly know what you want and will do what it takes to make it happen. But what happens when it comes to your big day? Unfortunately, it’s unrealistic to think you’ll be able to both oversee everything is being done correctly (and on time) and enjoy your big day. That’s where a day-of coordinator comes into play. While some brides opt to skip the coordinator, there are a lot of pros to hiring one. Today we’re going to break everything down to help you make the best educated decision you can for your situation.

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Image Source: @theweddingpic

What is a Day-Of Coordinator?

A day-of coordinator does just that -- coordinates your wedding day! They’ll oversee all the details you’ve spent months designing and setting up and ensure everything goes according to plan.

What’s included in their role?

While the exact details will vary from person to person, there’s a general feel to what most cover as a minimum. Part of this includes keeping the day running on schedule. They’ll help you create your timeline, connect with all of the vendors and confirm details, and collect your gifts and personal items at the end of the night. They’ll most likely be the last person to leave at the end of the night to make sure things run as smoothly as possible. Most likely, they’ll help with the running of your rehearsal as well. Often times, your “day-of” coordinator is more of a “month-of” coordinator. You’ll meet with them to go over all of the details for a smooth transition into them running the show.

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Image Source: @mkewendi

Why hire a coordinator?

Our number one reason to hire a coordinator is simple: peace of mind. It’s your big day, you shouldn’t be stressed about whether or not all those little details are falling into place or if things are being overlooked. If the caterers are all set up or the cake is in the right place. You should be focused on yourself and creating memories! A coordinator will handle all of those things and more.

Keep The Festivities Rolling with a Post-Wedding Brunch!

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Image Source: The Knot

The best way to prevent those post-wedding blues? Host a post-wedding brunch the morning after your big day! We love setting aside some time for you to continue the celebrations with your loved ones and hear their favorite parts about the previous day. This is a great way to thank your guests once again for making the haul to your event and an awesome send off for the happy couple as well. But how do you go about hosting the brunch? We’re breaking it down for you today.

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Image Source: @brayanmess

Where do we host?

The most convenient option is to just host the event at your hotel, assuming that you reserved a hotel block and most people will be in the same location, or at least nearby! The bottom line is to keep it convenient for your guests to get to, especially if they traveled out of town for the event. If you’re having your reception at the same location, you may be able to work out some sort of package deal/discounted pricing. Keep this a nice casual event -- no need for seating charts or a theme here -- to recount the festivities together.

What do we serve?

The caterer or hotel staff will be able to walk you through your options here. Most likely, you’ll be able to select options for a buffet, or if it’s a smaller group, guests can pick right from the menu. This will vary depending on your venue, but everyone loves a good brunch, so don’t stress too much over the menu! Keep it simple with the traditional waffles, eggs, fruit, yogurt, etc. Bloody Mary’s and mimosas are always nice, but make sure you don’t forget the coffee, too!

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Image Source: @sanacateringmarbella

How do we know who’s coming?

This is a great thing to put in your invitations! Include all the details on location and timing for the brunch on a separate note in your invitations so that guests are aware it is happening. On your RSVP cards, include a box for them to check as to whether or not they plan to attend the brunch in addition to your ceremony or not. This will give you, and in turn your caterer/venue, the proper head count for that morning’s food. Make note: you do NOT need to invite everyone who was invited to the wedding! It’s perfectly acceptable to keep it small and just with your families and closest friends if that’s what you prefer.

What’s a good time to start?

You can set whatever window works for you (and your venue!). We typically think of brunch as something running from 10 am through 2 pm. If your reception and after party are running into the wee hours of the morning, you can always shift it back to an 11 am start time if you think that will be better suited for yourselves and your guests.

Keep The Surprise: First Look Alternatives

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Image Source: Wedding Forward

We love the images captured during a couple’s first look on their wedding day! But, not everyone wants to ruin the surprise before the ceremony. After all, we also love seeing images of the emotion on a groom’s face when his bride walks down the aisle. But is there a happy medium? You betcha! Today, we’re going to look at our favorite first look alternatives to share a special moment without actually seeing each other before the ceremony.

First Touch

Without seeing each other, find a corridor where you can hold hands and exchange a few words with one another. This gives you the special moment of being able to connect and soothe your nerves before that big walk without breaking the superstition of seeing the bride in her dress! And, your photographer can still capture this sweet moment, which will make for some fun photos to look back on after the fact.

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Image Source: The Knot

Note and Gift Exchange

Most couples choose to exchange notes and/or gifts on their wedding day. This can be combined with a first touch, or it can be a separate event. If you don’t want to risk sneaking a peek, have someone in the wedding party bring the gifts to each of you so that you aren’t in the same area. Share your sweet thoughts with your future spouse and give them some extra reassurance before you say “I do.”

Vow Exchange

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Image Source: Wedding Forward

Does the idea of writing your own vows to recite in front of everyone give you anxiety? We don’t blame you! Instead of throwing the idea out the window completely, consider writing your own personal vows to share with your fiance before the ceremony in private. We swoon just thinking about how romantic this is! What a special way to start the day off -- hearing just how much your person loves you.

Phone Call

If you’re the over-cautious type, opt for a first phone call instead of a first touch! There’s zero chance you’ll catch a glimpse, so no need to stress over that. The whole point of a “first” anything with your future spouse before the ceremony is to connect and share a special, private moment together. A phone call can easily accomplish this!

Decision Time: The Pro's and Con's to a Destination Wedding

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Congratulations, you’re engaged! This is such an exciting, and overwhelming, time in your life. Make sure you take some time to soak up the bliss and excitement, but remember that there are lots of decisions to be made. The idea of running off and eloping in a destination wedding can seem very tempting and like a quick way out of all the planning… but is it the right decision for you? Today, we’re going to look over the pro’s and con’s of having a destination wedding or elopement and whether or not it’s a good fit for you and your beau!

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Image Source: Town and Country Magazine

Guest List

Have you always pictured having a big wedding? If so, a destination wedding might not be the right fit for you. Chances are, travelling to a destination may not be in the budget for everyone on your list. At a minimum, you’re looking at multiple days of hotel, food, and travel expenses which all add up pretty quickly. If you’re only planning on having a few select guests, it’s still important to make sure they’re willing to spend the money to make the trip. Nothing is more heartbreaking than missing the ones you love most on your big day.

Budget

There’s more of a budget factor here than you may think. Smaller wedding does not necessarily equate to a cheaper wedding, especially if there are travel expenses involved! Some couples opt to combine their honeymoon with their destination wedding, which can be a good option, but be sure you really look at all the costs beforehand. Having a ceremony at a destination resort most likely means selecting from a variety of preset packages, which means there’s less wiggle room in the budget.

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Image Source: @hanaa.v

Traveling

Traveling is so much fun, but travelling for your wedding adds a certain level of stress. There’s not much room for error in your packing! If you’re headed to a remote destination and forget your wedding shoes or earrings at home, you’re most likely going to end up getting married without them. You’re also constrained to certain sized and weighted bags, unless you’re willing to pay some extra fees. Most flights will have a certain amount of space for hanging bags (i.e. your dress/tux) but it’s best to call ahead in an attempt to guarantee the space.

Planning

A lot of the planning is out of your hands with a destination wedding. Most likely, you can’t actually be on site to oversee things or preview the area. If you’re more laid back, then this is totally fine! But if you’re the type of person that likes to oversee and be involved every step of the way, this may not be for you. You’ll also have to potentially deal with not being able to have the exact vendors you would like. As we said, a lot of destination resorts offer you a list of packages to choose from, which means you aren’t selecting your own caterer or florist or sometimes even photographer.

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Image Source: @vanessajaimesfloraldesign

Destination weddings can be a blast and absolutely beautiful! Just make sure you’re really reviewing all the information with your partner and closest loved ones before making the final leap.

Old, New, Borrowed, & Blue for Him

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We all know the classic wedding tradition that a bride should have something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue for her big day… but what about the groom? We think that it’s just as important for him to have some special traditions for the wedding day too! Not sure what items are best suited for the male counterpart? We’re sharing our top picks for each with you today!

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Image Source: Grey Likes Weddings

Getting married can be expensive. There’s no need to go out and replace everything you already own just for the big day! Save yourself a little bit of money and use a tie clip you already own. While it may not be a bank-breaking purchase for a new one, every penny counts and chances are you already own a handful with no need to continue to add to the collection! Plus, wearing your favorite tie clip on the big day will make it even more special for future use.

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We all know that your groom will be counting down the minutes until he gets to marry the love of his life, so make sure he’s prepared with a new watch! A great gift he can use regularly and be reminded of your special day. If it’s in the budget, we love the idea of having a special message engraved in the back of the face, even if it’s something as simple as your wedding date!

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Image Source: Easy Weddings AU

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We love hearing stories of treasured family heirlooms that are passed down or shared for the big day. You don’t frequently sport a tuxedo in everyday life? Instead of going out and buying all the essential tux accessories, borrow some! Does your dad or grandfather have a special set of cufflinks with sentimental value? Perfect. We love the idea of bringing your family down the aisle with you.

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Image Source: Off the Beaten Path

Recently, many brides have been getting a special, short love note sewn into the back of their groom’s tie. We think this is the absolute sweetest idea! Tie it into the tradition by opting for a blue thread. It will create a long-lasting memory that you can cherish for years to come.