Prenup or Not? Things To Consider In Your Decision

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We know, we know, the idea of discussing how to handle the end of your marriage before it even begins isn’t appealing. But hear us out, there can be many pros to having this legally binding agreement in place, even though you hope to never need to use it. Prenuptials aren’t just for couples with a lot of money or income inequalities either, they can be a good idea for couples in any financial situation. This gives you the opportunity to lay all your financial cards on the table, make sure you and your partner are on the same page, and have a game plan moving forward.

Contrary to popular belief, even if you maintain separate “personal” bank accounts after your marriage, the law sees all assets as combined. So in the event of a separation, your spouse is entitled to half the amount in your personal account. A prenup gives you the opportunity to give stipulations to how you want to divide assets in the event of a divorce. If you’re getting married, we would hope that you’ve had open and honest financial discussions, but if you’ve failed to do so up until this point, planning out a prenup could be an eye-opening experience.

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There are some pros to having a prenup -- obviously, or else no one would get them! Some of the biggest ones that we like to highlight are that if you’re coming into the relationship with family inheritance, you can write that in to be preserved if things turn south. If you’re coming into the marriage with children from previous marriages, you can ensure that they’re taken care of and protected. It also prevents a nasty battle over assets because most things will already be laid out.

People have a lot of negative thoughts and feelings towards prenuptials. For example, many see it as planning the end of a relationship before it begins, or that there’s a lack of trust between the couple. While it’s certainly not romantic and can definitely cause a bit of tension, that doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s a lack of trust. If your partner wants a prenup, have an open discussion and understand that they want to make sure you are both covered if things go downhill.

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If you do opt for a prenuptial, keep a few things in mind throughout the process. First off, make sure you hire separate legal counsel to ensure both parties are fairly represented in the discussions. Be honest and open in your discussions. Make sure you’re fully disclosing all relevant information and assets, if you fail to disclose or are found to have hidden assets in the process, the prenuptial can be voided. Make sure you come to an end result that you are both happy with. Just because you plan on never having to use the document doesn’t mean you should settle with something that’s unfair or not to your liking!

Moment of Truth: Important Topics to Cover Before Popping the Questions

You and your beau have been together for a while now and things have been going well. It’s only natural to start thinking about the future and what the next steps will be for your relationship. Traditionally, the next step will be engagement! Getting engaged is extremely exciting, but it’s important to make sure you’re both on the same page for a lot of big ticket items. Today, we’re going over some of the hard hitting discussion points you should cover before committing to forever with your significant other.

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This is a multi-faceted discussion. Are you a saver and they’re a spender? Do you like buying expensive things and they prefer the be more frugal? Do you have any debt they don’t know about? It’s totally okay to have different habits, but you should definitely be able to come up with a plan together for your financial future. This includes discussing topics like how you’ll handle your banking (separate accounts or joint), taxes, retirement accounts, other savings, big purchase spending, etc. Financial struggles and disagreements are one of the leading causes of divorce, so be proactive and make sure that you can agree on how you want to handle things in the future.

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This also carries over into things like paying for the wedding. Will you be asking your families to help or will you be shouldering the expenses as a couple? How much are you willing to set as a budget? And, the dreaded question that has become quite taboo… a prenup. Do you need one? It’s sad to think about the potential ending of your marriage before it even begins, but depending on your situation, it may be something to consider, but definitely something that needs to be discussed.

Careers & Lifestyle

Now, if you’ve been going strong for a while, chances are your careers and lifestyle choices already mesh well. That being said, it’s always good to connect and review. Things like where you want to live, how much traveling you would like to do, if you’re interested in switching jobs or going back to school. Do you want to keep renting or is it time to start considering buying a home of your own? All these things are topics usually discussed while you’re in a relationship anyways, but it can’t hurt to re-visit them!

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Do you want kids? Or maybe you want to adopt. Or maybe you just don’t see kids in your future. Whatever you see is totally fine, that’s your choice! But it’s only fair that your partner knows what you’re thinking, too. Timeframe is really important here, too. Maybe you’re not ready yet and want to freeze your eggs and focus on your career. Maybe you want to start a family right away. There’s no right or wrong answer as long as you’re on the same page.

Religion & Holidays

Your religious and spiritual beliefs are really important to discuss too. Not just on a compatibility level, but also for things like your wedding and future children. It’s important to be open about whether or not you want to get married in a church, or by a minister versus a justice of the peace. It’s also a good idea to talk about how you want to raise any potential children, whether you have different views on religion or the same.

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Holidays are also largely important to discuss. Do you go to church for the major holidays? What are your family traditions? Splitting up holidays between families can be an extremely stressful and difficult process. It seems like there’s always going to be at least one person who isn’t happy with your decisions. Before bringing other people into the discussion, sit down just the two of you and figure out what is most important to each of you. After you have a better grasp on that, feel out your families and see if they’re amenable with your plans and ideas.

How to Choose Your Invitation Suite with Basic Invite


Recently engaged or planning on hitting that milestone soon? We're so excited to share with you a step-by-step timeline and guide to selecting your wedding invitation suite with Basic Invite! Learn more about what sets their company apart from the rest, and what they see as up-and-coming trends for the 2018 season!

Who is Basic Invite?


PI: How was Basic Invite started?

BI: Basic Invite was started after the owner was shopping for wedding invitations for his own wedding. It was during this process that he realized the options were very limited and were available as is - meaning no customization options. So, he decided he wanted to change that and began the online stationery design company now known as Basic Invite.

...we strive for perfection and always stay ahead of the trend curve. We are consistently adding new designs and updating our system to work as effectively and user-friendly as possible.

PI: What sets Basic Invite apart from the competition?

BI: We have quite a few features that set us about from our competition. Our range of color choices is one of our biggest draws. We offer 180 custom colors on every single design! Other companies allows color customization, but only offer certain colors on certain designs and just a handful of options per card. So, we pride ourselves on that.

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Currently, we are the only online stationery company that offers clear wedding invitations and save the dates. Our clear collection is new and wildly popular with brides. These are made from clear vinyl card stock and printed with bright white ink. We offer this line in both clear and frosted.

In addition to that, we strive for perfection and always stay ahead of the trend curve. We are consistently adding new designs and updating our system to work as effectively and user-friendly as possible.

PI: You offer so many different styles and designs, where does your creative team draw its inspiration from?

BI: We partner with freelance designers from all over the globe. So, we are always adding new design trends that may not even be trending in the US. Our designers are great at trend spotting and often use design trends happening in other creative areas as inspiration for their designs.

Some of our most unique and popular looks are our watercolor washes, geode and agate, and of course our plethora of floral designs.

Our most popular product is definitely our wedding invitations. That’s what Basic Invite is built on and what we are best known for.

PI: Do you have any tips or suggestions on the etiquette a couple should follow in terms of wording on their invitations?

BI: Of course! In fact, we have an entire page dedicated to etiquette. To learn more click here. Etiquette has definitely taken a turn toward the less formal approach. With modern families and a vast variety of situations, proper etiquette isn’t as vital as it used to be. With that said, being clear with your information and correct in who you are addressing to is most important.

PI: What do you suggest as a timeline for sending Save the Date cards and the formal wedding invitation suite?


BI: At 6+ months, order your save the dates. Send them out 4+ months prior to the big day. For wedding invitations, we suggest starting to shop for designs and order samples at about 8+ months. Finally, placing your order at 4+ months and sending them at about 3+ months. That’s based on a one-year engagement, so if you’re planning a quicker walk down the aisle we would suggest getting right down to business and sending save the dates no longer than three months prior and invites shortly thereafter.

PI: What is your most popular or favorite product?

BI: Our most popular product is definitely our wedding invitations. That’s what Basic Invite is built on and what we are best known for. Personally, I love our personal and business stationery. It’s completely customizable just like our other products and it’s just too cute! Foil is always essential too!

The Selection Process


When a couple gets engaged, a long list of to do’s automatically comes along with it. Guest lists, venues, menus… the list goes on eventually making its way to wedding invitations. That’s where Basic Invite comes into play. Being an online stationery design company, couples often start “window shopping” for inspiration and inquiring about the process before they are actually ready to order. With that said, they do have an average timeline laid out for couples to help them stay on track with the process and help ensure their wedding invitations are perfection.

Brides-to-be tend to start looking for their save the dates right away. More so out of excitement than necessity as a date isn’t always set immediately. And that’s something Basic Invite encourages because the sooner you get started with design ideas and the better couples familiarize themselves with the website, the smoother the process will go.

Now, to break it down! Based on a one-year timeline, below is a checklist of what the experts at Basic Invite have found works best.

8+ months: Choose your colors and order a custom sample

  • Basic Invite offers 180 colors and all of their designs are completely customizable, so picking your colors is a great place to start! That way you aren’t overwhelmed when the time comes to place your order.
  • Order a custom sample. This way couples have a chance to experience the entire ordering process from start to finish. And seeing the product first hand will help ensure that the couple knows that the products are as high-quality as they imagine them to be. Also, who doesn’t love a good sample?!

6+ months: Order your save the dates.

  • This will leave plenty of time to design, order, and receive your save the dates and enough time to get them into their envelopes, addressed, and sent out without feeling rushed.

4+ months: Send your save the dates and order your wedding invitations

  • By this time you have your save the dates ready to go and it's time to move on to the main course. Here is a couple’s chance to really choose the wedding suite of their dreams. Sticking with the same design as your save the date is a common theme, but with over 800 wedding invitation designs, choosing a fresh look is never a bad idea! Try channeling your wedding day aesthetic to give your guests a peek into your wedding style and start the excitement early!

3+ months: Send out your invitations and order your wedding day stationery

  • Basic Invite always suggests utilizing their address printing services. This way you don’t have to hand address hundreds of envelopes yourself and also will make for a clean crisp look right off the bat.
  • Wedding day stationery includes programs, menus, wedding guestbooks, and thank you notes.

A couple of extra tips:

  • A rule of thumb is to send out thank you notes about two weeks post-wedding. That way your memories are fresh in your mind and will make your thank you's that much more personal. Wedding guests will expect appreciation and will love receiving custom thank you cards.
  • If a couple is planning a shorter engagement, adjust the timeline accordingly. Skipping save the dates and going straight to the wedding invitations is one suggestion. Or including your save the dates within a wedding suite is another.

2018 Trends


Before any of you newly engaged couples head over to Basic Invite, let’s talk 2018 wedding invite trends!


Watercolor Washes

In the 2017 season we saw watercolor washes flood the design gates and so far we aren’t anticipating any changes there. Watercolor wedding invitations are such a sweet and romantic choice and you can make them work for almost any wedding style and definitely during any season of the year.


Rose Gold Foil

Of course the classic gold and silver foil options are timeless trends, but we are seeing a rise in rose gold foil for the upcoming wedding season. Rose gold is trending in general and brides are going to go crazy over this come the new year. Foil is available in flat or raised and adds a chic touch to any invitation.


Geode and Agate

Modern and artsy. Think art deco, rich gemstone color schemes, and marble patterns. One of Basic Invite's personal favorite upcoming trends! This is a great choice for the modern bride or a couple who likes an edgier yet dreamy look.


All Inclusive

Wedding suites are great when you house them in one of Basic Invite's pocket envelopes because it keeps each piece stacked nicely in place and makes for a clean and organized look for your guests. But next year, Basic Invite is predicting that all inclusive seal-and-send wedding invitations will be the new pocket envelopes. These will be so nice because of their all-in-one convenience. Guests will love having to only keep track of a single wedding invitation with all of the vital details enclosed rather than holding onto multiple pieces that may get lost along the way. Stay tuned for more!


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Wedding Day Survival Kit Checklist


The last thing you want on your big day is to forget one of your most important items. Set yourself up for success by gathering everything the day before, or even earlier if possible so you can go out and purchase any last minute necessities. Not sure what should be included on your survival checklist? Here’s ours below!

  • Face wash
  • Face moisturizer
  • Toothbrush
  • Toothpaste
  • Floss
  • Chap stick
  • Razor
  • Shaving Cream
  • Body lotion
  • Deodorant
  • All makeup (if doing own)
  • Makeup remover
  • Translucent powder
  • Makeup setting spray
  • All hair products and styling tools (if doing own)
  • Compact mirror
  • Tissues
  • Sunscreen
  • Insect repellent (if outside)
  • Gum/Breath mints
  • Blotting papers

  • Eye drops
  • Contacts & solution (if applicable)
  • Glasses (if applicable)
  • Pain reliever
  • Antacid
  • Tampons
  • Band Aids
  • Water
  • Snack

  • Clear polish
  • Mascara
  • Lipstick/gloss
  • Hairspray
  • Tweezers
  • Bobby pins
  • Hair elastics
  • Cotton swabs
  • Super glue
  • Safety pins
  • Small sewing kit
  • Stain remover pen
  • Extra earring backs
  • Lint roller
  • Clear tape

Download a PDF of our list to take with you to your next wedding!

Save the Date Mistakes

The main purpose for distributing save-the-dates is to give your wedding guests an advanced notice of when your big day is. By sending them, your guests are able to take off work or arrange travel plans far in advance in order to celebrate your wedding day. Although save-the-dates are simple and easy to send out, there are some common mistakes that people tend to make:

The main purpose for distributing save-the-dates is to give your wedding guests an advanced notice of when your big day is. By sending them, your guests are able to take off work or arrange travel plans far in advance in order to celebrate your wedding day. Although save-the-dates are simple and easy to send out, there are some common mistakes that people tend to make:

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Save-the-dates should be sent 4-6 months prior to your wedding date. A couple should only send them once their venue is also booked, in case your dream venue is booked the day you already printed on the save-the-date.

Be sure to add your location to the save-the-date for guests who are located far away. By doing so, guests are able to secure travel accommodations!

The worst is customizing your save-the-dates and receiving them in the mail only to notice spelling or grammar mistakes. Be sure to proof read everything before ordering them!

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Save-the-dates should only include the couple's names, the wedding date, location, and wedding website (if applicable). The actual wedding invite will contain more details for guests. Keep the save-the-dates short and simple!

Pros and Cons for Each Season

One of the most important parts of planning your wedding is of course setting a date! Do you want to get married surrounded by a soft sheet of snow, or maybe sinking your toes in the sand on the beach? Whichever season you’re leaning towards to celebrate your big day, be sure to know some pros and cons of each.


  • Romantic

There’s nothing more romantic than a cozy atmosphere surrounded by a fresh sheet of snow, a fireplace, and your loved ones in the winter months!

  • Discounts

Since winter is considered the slow season for weddings, you have a better chance of finding discounts on venues!

  • Comfort foods

You get to have all the fun in creating your menu filled with comfort foods to keep your guests toasty warm!


  • Weather

With winter comes snow, and unpredictable snow storms could prevent guests from being able to attend.

  •  Holidays

People are saving money for the countless winter holidays, such as Christmas, Hanukkah, New Years, and Valentine’s Day.


  • Natural Beauty

Flowers are blooming, trees are slowing getting back their greenery. Have fun matching your wedding colors with the natural colors of spring surrounding you!

  • Weather warming up

 Everyone loves when the weather starts to warm up, especially after a chilly winter season! It’s a great time to have an outdoor ceremony where guests won’t be too hot or too cold!


  • Peak Wedding Season

Spring time is a very popular season to get married. Venues may be booked, and it is hard to compete with others for that prime wedding date!

  • Allergies

 Spring is the peak season for allergies, which means itchy eyes and runny noses!

  • Rainy Season

 If you decided upon an outdoor wedding, keep in mind that April showers bring May flowers… and could potentially wash out your venue.


  • Option of an outdoor wedding

Long days, longer sunlight, and warm nights call for great outdoor weddings for you and your guests to enjoy!

  •  Themes are endless

Garden theme, rustic theme, beach theme, you name it, you got it! Aside from a wintery wedding, the themes that you can pull off are endless!


  • Heat

Although we can’t wait for the warm weather to arrive, there’s always the risk of getting married on the same day the weather is in the 90s. Be prepared to offer some shade for your guests!

  • Vacation Season

Another risk is having your wedding weekend land right in the middle of someone else’s vacation week. Summer is a very popular time for families to take vacations!


  • Reliable weather

Just like spring, the weather is not too hot and not too cold!

  • Foliage

Use nature to your advantage with decorations! Fall is the perfect season to save money in the decoration department since the foliage is as beautiful as it comes!


  • Tight finances

People are starting to save money for the upcoming holidays in the winter season, which means they are more likely to have a tight budget (and you also might be tight on your budget for the same reason)!

National Jewel Day: The Four C's

It’s time to celebrate all things shiny and sparky today for National Jewel Day! What better way to celebrate a girl’s best friend than by focusing on our favorite piece of jewelry: the engagement ring. Before picking out your dream ring, it’s important to know the Four C’s: Cut, Color, Clarity, and Carat. 

The cut of a diamond is the most important characteristic, since it determines the sparkle of the diamond. The better the cut grade of a diamond, the more sparkle it will have. 


The color of a diamond is the second most important characteristic. The higher the grade, the most expensive the ring will be. To avoid breaking the bank, choosing a near-colorless diamond will save you money all while appearing to be colorless to the naked eye. 

The clarity of a diamond refers to very tiny imperfections (also called inclusions). The higher the grade, the fewer and smaller inclusions there are. To maximize your budget, choose a diamond that is “eye-clean,” which means there are no visible inclusions to the naked eye.

The carat of a diamond refers to the weight of the diamond. In relation to a diamond’s cut, the smaller carat weight of a diamond appears larger with a higher cut grade. The larger the carat, the rarer the diamond will be. 

How to Choose the Right Menu

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One of the biggest financial decisions for your wedding day is the food and menu. Aside from picking from a variety of delicious appetizers, entrees and desserts, it’s important to decide how to present and serve the food to your guests, all while keeping your budget in mind!

If you want a more casual way of serving food, having a buffet at your wedding is a great choice! With a buffet, guests will be able to have the freedom of getting whichever food they desire, and you are able to have a wider variety of food available. Having a buffet may be a little pricey due to ordering vast amount of food to feed everyone, especially if people would want seconds!

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Image Credit: The Perfect Palette

To opt for a more formal dining option, having a plated, sit-down dinner at your reception is the way to go! Guests will typically be served a three-course meal (appetizer, entrée, and dessert), where there will be 2-3 options for food choices. Having a plated dinner is more organized since everyone will be seated and eating at the same time. After getting a head count for your wedding, having a sit-down dinner is budget friendly since you can order the exact amount of food you need.





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Having a cocktail-style reception is a great way to provide food for your guests if you want to avoid a long sit-down meal as well as larger portions of food. Hors d’oeuvres are usually served, giving guests plenty of options of smaller foods. Cocktail style receptions are also perfect to have your guests mingle and meet each other! Having a variety of smaller portioned foods is a good way to save money on your big day!


Deciding on a Wedding Website

Having a personalized website for your special day is a great way to share your love story, organize wedding details, and display information and pictures for your guests. One difficult decision is deciding which website you would like to use in order to display and organize your dream wedding day! After viewing numerous wedding websites, we have come up with our top 3 picks to make that decision for you a little easier! 

Appy Couple is great for those who need everything all in one spot! From tracking your guest list to allowing guests to RSVP right on the website, it is perfect for those who like everything organized. In addition, guests are able to upload photos during and after the wedding to share with everyone! Appy Couple offers an app for your smartphone and any changes you make sync from the website directly to the app! Have fun choosing from 500+ creative and fun designs! 


Want your wedding website to stand out amongst the others? Wedding Window is the first and only wedding website to offer video backgrounds for your website! You can personalize your video or use one of the fun and romantic premade templates. To help out with keeping track of RSVPs, Wedding Window allows guests to RSVP with simple ecards, making it stress-free to get an accurate headcount for your big day!  


The Knot has everything you need at the tip of your fingers. From collecting menu selections from guests to sharing fun and memorable photos throughout the evening, The Knot is great with organizing everything for you! In addition, all of your registry wish lists will be all in one place. With hundreds of fun designs, The Knot allows you to change or update your design at any time!

You're engaged! Now what?

You're engaged! Now what?

Question popped.  They said yes! So exciting, congratulations! After you have stopped crying and called your mom, here are the first few things to jump start your wedding planning process.

Step One- Get the Word Out! 

In the era of social media, we think you should pause before making it Facebook official. This is such a big and personal moment of your life, we think it requires a real human connection to share it. So depending on who you want to tell and where they live, either pick up the phone, stop by for coffee or start your Skype video. These moments of real connection only add to the special feeling that the engagement brings. Once you have shared the news with all your close loved ones, time to start posting, Tweeting and Instagramming. 

Step Two- What season speaks to you?

Close your eyes and envision you and your partner on your wedding day. What do you see? Snow covered mountains? Crisp air and falling leaves? Sand under your feet? Or trees budding with the smell of dew in the air? This will let you know if you are a winter, fall, spring or summer couple. From experience, this is the easiest decision to make.  A lot of the time the season you pick will influence your design. Once you know your season, pick a date and start planning!

Step Three- Draft Your Guest List 

This daunting task rates as one of the hardest parts about planning a wedding. While a standard approach is to draft a budget and then a guest list, we like to switch it up. We find that couples have an easier time starting with their big wish list and then once a budget is established, whittling it down based on their established per person costs. It makes taking people off the list a little more logical than emotional. 

We suggest making a spreadsheet and have a tab for "A" and a tab for "B."  The "A" list should consist of close family members, close friends and any other must haves. The "B" list should consist of anyone that you would love to have there but don't have the budget for. 

Be strategic when sending out your invites! The standard is to mail out the invitations 6-8 weeks before your wedding date. We suggest mailing to your "A" list 10 weeks out. This will give you an extra two weeks to send out invitations to your "B" list as you receive regrets from the "A" list. Not everyone will be able to join, so if you stay on top of the RSVP list you will be able to supplement from your "B" list and end up having the exact guest list that you were hoping for!  

Step Four- Let's Talk Budget! 

Whether you want a lavish affair or an intimate backyard wedding, you need to have a budget that works for you and helps you make informed decisions as you go through the planning process.

The first step in budget planning is to have honest conversations with yourself, your partner and any family members that might be contributing to the wedding. We suggest talking with each family separately. This allows the conversation to be honest and private. If there are family members that are going to contribute, ask them to commit to a certain dollar amount so you know what you should be adding to your overall budget. 

As you will come to understand your budget is a fluid thing, you will adjust it as you go. For your reference here is a standard breakdown of how your budget should be allocated but make it work for you and your wants and needs

Reception: 48%-50%
Ceremony: 2%-3%
Attire: 8%-10%
Flowers: 8%-10%
Entertainment/Music: 8%-10%
Photography/Videography: 10%-12%
Stationery: 2%-3%
Wedding Rings: 2%-3%
Parking/Transportation: 2%-3%
Gifts: 2%-3%
Miscellaneous: 8%

With these first few steps you will be on your way to planning an amazing and meaningful day for both you and your guests! Have any questions or other concerns? Comment below and we will do our best to answer them!






Our Favorite Wedding Books

You are engaged! Now what? As you will soon find out planning a wedding is mixture of excitement and stress. There are so many different details and moving pieces that even the most organized brides and grooms can begin to feel overwhelmed. We listen to our audience and try to help ease that strain, so here is our round up of our favorite planning books. These books contain the essential tools to help you navigate the planning process and get you to start checking things off your list!


A Practical Wedding Planner

We heart all things Meg Keene! A Practical Wedding Planner is filled with useful tips and advice but its interactive lists and graphs that we think will really help the reader hone in on what they really want on their big day! Step one? Create your wedding mission statement! How great is that?




Stuff Every Bride Should Know

This is for the on-the-go brides and grooms! This pocket sized book is brimming with checklists, logistics, budgets. From bachelorette parties to writing your own vows, Michelle Park Lazette has you covered!


Handmade Weddings

Logistics done? Now in need of personal details to set your day apart? Calling all crafty brides and grooms! Handmade Weddings is separated into six wedding themes: Retro Homespun, Girly Romantic, Happy Graphic, Organic Minimal, Modern Classic, & Found.

We love how each project comes with a listthe materials you'll need, the budget, and how long it will take to complete. 

We see a crafty weekends in your future!